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Want To Raise a Smart & Kind Child?
Imagine your child entering kindergarten, junior high, and college and then finding a dream job. One that is perfect fit for their talents, skills and interests. As a caring adult, wouldn’t you feel happy for them? Wouldn’t it make you happy to find out that by spending time connecting while they were young will make it easier for them in the world of work.
One of the best ways to increase the chances of your child’s success in school and life is to help them develop problem-solving and critical thinking skills. Help them to learn to read and gain a vocabulary of words. What words mean; how to use them in sentences and how to read them on a page or ipad. There is a direct correlation between vocabulary and success in school.
Connection and Conversations
Perhaps the purest joy in relationships is in the privilege of sharing. Precious hours that caring adults and children spend in each other’s company are remembered longest with the greatest delight. The mutual joy of sharing time together in conversation and connection will form a chain of experiences which give a child a deep sense of security. It will affirm the love and acceptance for their presence.
Read, Sing and Talk
As a Ready to Learn Instructor for PBS some years ago it was a honor to teach caring adults to read, sing and talk to their babies at least 20 minutes a day face to face. That seems like so little time in a day when toddlers interrupt every four minutes, but it is hard for some parents, to really concentrate and connect physically and spiritually with the child. DO IT ANYWAY.
Children Learn What They Live
Dorothy Law Nolte’s poem “Children Learn What They Live” tells us how children develop values of justice, honest, compassion, empathy, confidence and faith. Just as surely, kids also develop attitudes about learning. Assist your child to be a lover of learning. That is how you Raise a Smart & Kind Child.
If a child lives with books, storytelling, and reading aloud on his parent’s laps, he learns to enjoy reading.
If a child lives with notes and letters exchanged in the course of his life, he learns to enjoy writing.
If a child has conversations with parents and siblings around the dinner table, and while working and playing together, he learns good language and listening skills.
If a child has time and encouragement to develop his own plans and the freedom to make projects, he learns critical thinking skills and initiative.
If a child learns to finish jobs at home and get his studies done, he learns responsibility and time management.
If a child is taught to be organized with his possessions, he learns to be reliable and responsible for handouts and materials that he receives throughout the day.
If a child has an opportunity to be taught in his own learning style and strengths, he will become an active and involved student. He will grow in confidence and self-esteem.
If a child’s questions are encouraged and then answered honestly, he will feel free to examine other points of view and enlarge his thinking skills. When adults answer questions and engage in conversation, the child’s mind is opened to new possibilities.
If a child has security and stability at home, he has an inner sense of being safe and grounded. Once that foundation is in place, he is free to focus and concentrate on his studies and interests.
If a child lives with positive expectations and has success in meeting small goals, he is encouraged to move forward toward the challenges ahead.
Thank you for your important work in assisting to raise smart and kind kids who will make a better world.
Good cooks know the freshest artichokes have squeaky leaves. Discover even more here. This book is filled with tips on picking the perfect artichoke, how to prepare them for cooking, and many absolutely scrumptious artichoke recipes, brought to you by Auntie Artichoke.
As a global speaker and writer on family issues, I am frequently asked why I would have chosen an artichoke as my logo. What does parent education and artichokes have in common?
You will find the answers in other essays included in this little recipe, history and philosophy book.
In addition to the yummy treasures in the recipes, I want to share my enthusiasm for finding the heart of the story in the journey of life. My message focuses on Respect, Resilience and Responsibility, all qualities that the artichoke and those grow and eat them have.
Three Important Lessons
Part of my community volunteerism is hearing and recording end-of-life stories for Hospice.It is such an honor to share that space between worlds and gain from the wisdom of the dying.
According to a study done and my own experience, the three things most dying people regret are:
- They wish they would have risked more. My mother said she chose the known and the unknown would have been fine.How many people are intimidated by the artichoke and miss the delectable pleasure because they were too afraid to ask how to cook and eat them?
- They wish they would have reflected more. Just stopped along the way to think “Is this the kind of person I want to be? Is this really what I want to do with my life? What would make me happier?”
- They wish they would have contributed more. One man told me that he wished he would have shared his wisdom with his sons. Another said she wished they would have had more people over for dinner and not worried about the stained carpet.
You can be sure I always contribute one of these easy and delicious artichoke recipes when we attend a pot-luck or host a dinner party.
Removing The Outer, Revealing The Inner
As I learned these lessons, I removed some outer leaves of doubt and fear. When I dared to open my heart and really accept the pointy edges and the fuzzy parts, my life changed.
So much better in fact, I am amazed and grateful for the blessings and opportunities that have come to our lives.
Grow, Select, Cook & Eat With Gusto
It is my deepest with that you find that same peace and joy in your heart. And that you will learn more about how to grow, select and cook an artichoke.
And especially you will gain the confidence to eat with gusto the delicious meat on the artichoke leaves as you dig down to the heart. I wish you joy as you dip the meaty petal of this thistle into the best life has to offer you.
Hopefully, we will meet in person one day and share a cup of tea and exchange stories. Until then, please know that you are loved and appreciated.
Judy Helm Wright aka “Auntie Artichoke”
A wise woman with a global message
Imagine what your child feels like in school or social situations? Can you picture the self-conscious shuffling of feet and downward stare? How would you like to discover simple, effective and honest ways to help your child to gain self-esteem and confidence?
Do you sometimes find yourself wondering what you did or said that made your child run out of the room and slam the door? You will understand how to not take it personally when they reject your council and advice. You will discover new ways of communication that will be more effective and long lasting with your child, no matter what age they are.
Suppose I were to tell you that simply by changing the way you ask your child how their day went would make an astonishing difference? Do you wonder what would happen if they became empowered to stand up for themselves?
You will gain appreciation for your child’s strengths and help him or her to develop social skills that will help them feel comfortable in all situations.
Suppose you were able to find just the right words to say that gave your child courage to find friends or try out for the play? Wouldn’t that feel great?
This small booklet is crammed with proven results gained from years of parent education classes with parents just like you. Most parents love their children and want their kids to like themselves, but are not sure how to help them.
Judy Helm Wright also known as “Auntie Artichoke” has spent years working with coaches, parents, day care providers, grandparents, foster families and others. You will find yourself nodding your head and agreeing with the suggestions and ideas.
The genuine advice and suggestions will resonate with your spirit and your desire to help your child to like themselves. There is nothing magic or mysterious, just little “tweaks” that turn self-hate to self-acceptance and eventually to self-love.
If you are at all curious about Auntie Artichoke, you will want to go to her website at http://www.ArtichokePress.com and parenting blog at http://www.AskAuntieArtichoke.com There you will find even more resources for parents, teachers, child care providers and others who care for children.
I Lost My Best Friend Today
Dealing with the Loss of a Beloved Pet
By Judy H. Wright
The Heartfelt Collection of Stories That Pet Lovers, Parents, Veterinarians, And Animal Communicators Are All Talking About
Do you view your pet as a member of your family, your closest friend, and constant companion? Our pets help us to be better people. They bring us a level of love that can never be replaced any more than their personality can be replaced. If you or someone you care about has pets, there will be a tremendous sense of loss when that pet dies or has to be euthanized. I wonder if you can relate to some experiences I have had…
- Was the decision to euthanize your pet one of the hardest things you’ve ever done?
- Do you have an old or terminally ill pet who you cannot stand the thought of losing?
- Do you find yourself denying the inevitable or wondering how you will ever be able to handle the loss when they are gone?
“I Lost My Best Friend Today is a wonderful collection of personal stories, information, and quotations about the heartfelt subject of how deeply pets, and their passing, affect our lives. It touches a subject, which until recently, was not in mainstream consciousness. This wonderful book deals with the many and varied emotional aspects of the death and grieving process of our family pets. If you have loved and lost a pet, this book will aid you in your healing process. If you know someone who has loved and lost a pet, this book will help you to understand what he or she may be going through emotionally and mentally.”
- Patricia Skergan, D.C., Wholistic Chiropractic
- Is your child struggling to understand the death of their pet?
- Do you wish you could find the words to comfort a grieving friend or family member who lost a beloved pet, but you don’t know what to say to show your support without appearing to trivialize their pain?
- Did the loss of your animal best friend trigger unhappy memories or unresolved conflicts of loss from years ago?
- Did you find that you were more upset over losing a pet, than losing a parent or relative?
I know that pets are more than just animals… they are our closest friends, constant companions, and integral members of our family. Our family has always had pets who were important members of our “tribe.”
Our family has felt the depths of such a loss when we lost our family pet, a Cocker Spaniel named Taffy.
Taffy was a fence jumping, chicken chasing, stinky breathed, fur scratching, devoted member of our family. He held a special place in our heart, because he had saved our two-year-old son Andy’s life when he wandered off into the street.
One day while working in the house, I realized I could no longer hear giggles and barks coming from the yard. Running quickly I saw that both gates were still locked but both the baby and dog were both gone!
Panic stricken I looked all over our property and then started running up the block towards the busy street two blocks aw ay. Crying their names I heard a woman by the street yelling; “are you looking for a little blond haired boy and a blond haired dog?”
A woman who had rushed outside her business after seeing a small boy starting to go on the street and a dog trying to herd him back told us the story. She said that Taffy saved Andy’s life by continually getting in front of him so could not go forward into the speeding traffic. After the adventure, Taffy and Andy were inseparable and both of them spoiled rotten by the rest of the family.
Fast Forward to a Painful Family Decision…
Eventually the day came when, as a family, we agreed that Taffy could no longer go up and down stairs, was constantly incontinent and was in such pain that even patting her hurt her.
After a tearful goodbye from each of us, my husband Dwain, ever the strong silent hero of the group, wrapped her in a special blanket and took her to the vet for the final visit.
Our hearts were heavy that day. Our tears were plentiful. For once, the house was silent and everyone was grieving in their own unique and special way. Even Tiddles the cat was not his usual self.
But for all of us, Taffy was and is our hero. Not just because she jumped the fence to save Andy, but because she was an important and valuable member of our family. She not only brought protection, enjoyment, and companionship to all of us, but she also taught us about loyalty.
It was because of her examples of loyalty to us that we, individually and as a family group, have been more loyal friends and associates to others, human and animal.
I Lost My Best Friend Today – Dealing with the Loss of a Beloved Pet was a labor of love born from my desire to help other people who are struggling with this significant loss.
Every Chapter Of The eBook Has Something Special…
1. Loving, Losing, and Letting Go
2. What Having Pets Can Teach Us
3. Unexpected Loss of a Pet
4. When Cure Turns to Comfort Care
5. Having a Beloved Pet Euthanized
6. Grief is Natural
7. Expressing Our Pain
8. Guilt and Regret
9. Pet Loss and Children
10. Pet Loss and the Elderly or Homebound
11. Do Animals Grieve When a Companion Dies
12. Memorials, Tributes and Rituals to Remember
13. Do Animals Have Souls?
14. Expressing Sympathy to Others
15. How Sharing Stories Help Us Heal
- Enjoy the Printable Prayer that was written and shared by Rev. Ann Keeler Evans called Prayer on Losing Your Dog
- Read pet loss poems & quotes about losing a pet as well as words to say in terms of pet condolence
- Find resources to order pet loss sympathy cards, gifts and support groups for others who are also going through the loss of a family pet
- Gain an appreciation of alternative therapies for pets who are ill
- Discover others who will help you on the journey to recover from the grief you are experiencing
How does your child handle disappointment? What happens when they don’t win the game, election or friend? Are they resilient? Do they want to quit the team when they are not chosen for play? Can they bounce-back from disappointment or failure and find new ways to become empowered?
How do you handle discouragement and crisis? What happens when you face adversity? What characteristics and strengths help you to overcome and bounce back from bad situations?
Do you or your child dwell on what went wrong and what mistakes were made, rather than recognizing what went right, even if the outcome was not what you would have wished for?
How to Get Your Kids to Help at Home
Enjoy Judy’s Downloadable MP3 Audio!
Learn to institute meaningful family communication that will have everyone pitching in their share of the household work! Tips for making chores FUN and methods of encouraging your kids to be responsible and independent.
By listening to this audio you will:
- The importance of organization within the family structure
- How to establish a weekly Family Council
- Methods of organizing family chores
- How the family can share the housework responsibilities
- Ways to make chores fun!
- Techniques for encouraging your children
- Ways to develop mutual respect
- And much much more!
This is a very popular class of Judy’s which gives parents, teachers, and caregivers solid suggestions for achieving more cooperation from kid. Help teach children in your care about solid life skills. This audio will help you to develop a plan for getting the housework done so you can have FUN with your family! Plus, you will instill a sense of responsibility in your children that will serve them into adulthood.